I recently ended things with a guy I really cared about, but knew that the relationship was going nowhere. It was totally the right thing to do, however, now I can’t help but feel regret for my decision and keep looking back in sadness. I am being given attention from other males, but find myself rejecting it and thinking about this one guy – EVEN THOUGH I KNOW HE IS SO NOT RIGHT FOR ME.
I’m sure every girl has gone through this at one time or another, when you’re so hung up over a guy that you can’t bare the thought of other males. It’s crazy how our women brains think because I’m pretty sure guys do the opposite after a break up and just try and hump anything that moves.
Any how, past few days I’ve felt mega lost and been unsure of how to make sense of my thoughts. I thought meeting someone new was what I wanted, but turns out it’s not. So instead of looking for love in another person, I am going to look for it in myself.
Instead of regretting my decision to end things with said person, I’m going to celebrate the fact that I had the courage to do what I thought was right. Instead of moan about the fact that my friends are in relationships and I am single, I am going to value the spare time that I’ve got to work on me and my dreams. I am going to work on me and what I want. If in between that I want to have a little cry about ending things with the guy I care about, that’s cool too. I am going to OWN my circumstances and make the best of what I can.
Because really, that’s all any of us can do in any situation. Feeling lost is the worst feeling in the world, but it’s only a second away from grounding yourself, checking out your circumstances and realising that actually, you’re not lost, your sat nav just lost signal for a minute.
So my message to anyone that is reading this is if you’re feeling lost; show yourself some love; take ownership of your circumstance and you’ll realise you are exactly where you need to be.